You’ve exerted a lot of effort to get to this point. You’ve created the perfect profile, uploaded (and possibly had new ones taken) flattering pictures of yourself, read as many member profiles as you could and spent hours and hours chatting with people and getting to know them. You did a great job and now it’s time to pat yourself on the back. This is where the fun starts. But don’t think you can stop exerting as much effort simply because you’ve finally got what you were initially looking for.
Just like any other relationship, a healthy online relationship will need to be managed well if it is to survive the many perils that lie before it. Here are some points to remember about managing your online relationship:
When you begin the relationship, both you and your partner should be clear about what you expect in the relationship. Be open with your partner. Take as much time as you can to sort out possible conflicting issues so that you both have an idea of how you want the relationship to proceed. You might also want to clarify the status of the relationship. Will the relationship be exclusive? Do you want to keep your options open? Settle these questions so you won’t have to worry about them in the future.
One of the biggest hurdles of an online relationship is maintaining a healthy level of communication. Make sure to communicate with each other regularly and as often as possible. Don’t let distance be a reason for failing to keep up with what’s happening with your partner. Apart from calling on landlines, you can call and send SMS on the mobile phone, call through Skype, and chat through instant messengers. You can also email or send a message through social networking sites such as Facebook. There are several possible methods of communication nowadays that there really is no excuse not to stay in contact.
Visit each other.
Visit each other as often as you can. Don’t keep the limit the relationship to the Internet. Find ways of meeting as often as possible. If your partner lives far from you, make a point of setting aside time for each other. Each date will be special, especially if you don’t see each other every day.
Come up with new activities.
Instead of just spending your time talking on the phone all the time, try to come up with ideas of other activities you could do together even though you’re far apart. For example, if both of you are gamers, you can try playing the same game and embarking on the same quest for a day. Or if you’re both movie buffs, you could try watching a video at the same time and then discussing it afterwards.
Trust each other.
Trust is the single, most important thing in a relationship. Without trust, a relationship cannot hope to survive. While it’s very easy to become suspicious of your partner’s activities when you don’t see each other all the time, remember that your partner still has his/her own life to live. Have faith in your partner’s feelings for you and choose to believe in the love they give you instead of your fears and worries.