Many women are afraid of online dating because they think that the Internet is full of pigs and that there is a scarcity of quality men. The harsh reality is that this is somewhat true. You are going to meet plenty of men who are not worth your time. You might even be targeted by scammers. It’s all part of the adventure. Pick yourself up after each failure and move on to the next.
Here are a few pointers to find quality men online:
Be aware of what your profile says about you.
Sometimes a woman will say one thing but her profile will say something else entirely. When you write your profile, be sure to describe who you really are as a person and what you’re looking for. If you’re looking for a gentleman who will respect you for the smart, confident woman you are, it would probably best to avoid sexual innuendos in your username. Come up with a username that truly encapsulates your character and sets you apart from everyone else. Write drafts of your profile and edit it until you are satisfied.
Flash a gorgeous smile.
Pictures can do wonders to your online dating experience. A profile with a picture will experience a dramatic increase in attention from the male population on the online dating site. Find a good recent picture of yourself and upload it. Don’t worry if you’re not as skinny as Photoshop could probably make you. And don’t worry if it’s not a glamour shot. What you’d like to show is your real self (on a really good day.) Be honest enough to upload a recent picture of yourself (not your friend, favourite actress, cat, or baby.) And don’t forget to smile. A warm smile can make the man viewing your profile message you.
Quality men don’t just pop out of nowhere. You’re going to have to go out there and look for their profiles. Invest time in reading about other members and talking to them. Message the people who capture your interest and don’t be afraid of getting rejected. There will be quite a few misses but that doesn’t mean you should give up.
The best way of finding out about a man is to listen to him. Let him talk and listen carefully. Listen to everything, even to the things that aren’t being said. Don’t push him into talking about previous relationships but if he brings up the topic, listen to how he talks about them. Be careful of the man who spouts vitriol when talking about a past love. He might do the same to you in the future. Learn what you can about the things that interest him. If he says he likes reading ask about the last book he read. Or if he says he’s into writing, ask about the last thing he’s written.
Protect yourself from scammers.
You might find the guy who will push all the right buttons. He will tell you everything you need to hear and just when he has you eating out of his hands, he’ll run away with your money. It’s a really sad story. Sadder still because your money isn’t the most important thing he ran away with. Research on dating scams and arm yourself against these people.